If Pain Matters to You… Part II
If you haven’t already read about the things you can DO to help minimize discomfort, head on over to Part I.
Here’s my top list of things that clients try to help eliminate the pain. But instead, they easily do the opposite.
If you haven’t already read about the things you can DO to help minimize discomfort, head on over to Part I.
Here’s my top list of things that clients try to help eliminate the pain. But instead, they easily do the opposite.
#1- Caffeine
This might seem like a no brainer, but caffeine is a stimulant which makes your pores tighten. This causes more pain when the root of the hair is removed through that pore.
Why clients try it —-> Generally it’s part of their morning routine. Or they think it will help syke themselves out or hype them up to get through the service.
What to do instead —-> Hit the coffee/soda shop right after your appointment.
#2- Alcohol
Alcohol increases blood flow which makes your skin more sensitive and reactive, causing things like strawberry skin or pinpoint bleeding.
Why clients try it —-> Clients think that alcohol numbs physical pain too and don’t realize that dehydration in the skin increases pain tremedously.
What to do instead —-> Avoid alcohol 24 hours before an appointment and increase water to hydrate your skin. This increases elasticity, making the body less sensitive to the discomfort.
#3- Numbing Creams
This seems like a good idea, but it can make the skin extremely sensitive to the heat of the wax. It can also make the waxing products hard to adhere to the area that is being waxed.
Why clients try it —-> The thought of feeling nothing down there like an epidural sounds life changing.
What to do instead —-> Try an over the counter pain reliever.
#4- Skipping the grow out period
The truth is, 2 weeks MINIMUM is needed post shaving to get 95% plus of the hairs. Shorter hairs means more pain.
Why clients try it —-> 2 weeks sounds like death to those who are daily shavers. And they think their hair grows fast. (Spoiler alert - 99.9% are normal)
What to do instead —-> Plan ahead, toss the razor out of your shower, and give at least 2 weeks worth of growth. Bonus tip - 3-4 weeks growth will actually be easier for you and your waxer!
#5- Picking the wrong waxer
When selecting your Esthetician, I always recommend asking friends and looking at Google. But here’s an extra tip! Check out their booking site. If the service is scheduled for longer than 30-45 minutes, it’s likely that they don’t do a lot of Brazilian Waxes OR that they are new.
Why clients try it —-> They want to save $10.
What to do instead —-> Choose a beauty professional that does a large quantity of Brazilian waxing. You won’t regret it!
Is there anything else you have tried that you don’t recommend?
Experience the Difference!
Zoey Jolley, LE
If Pain Matters To You…
While waxing is not a completely pain free treatment, there are several ways to minimize the discomfort.
Today, I’m sharing my top 5 tips for a more comfortable wax!
#1 - Consistent, regular wax appointments
The more regular you are with waxing, the less discomfort you will have! I always say, the first wax is the worst. When you come back for wax #2, it will be half the pain or less. And for the first 4(ish) waxes, I think it just keeps getting easier! Plus, this is how we get thinner, finner and even sparser hair. It’s by consistent, regular waxes!
The how —-> The build up of dead skin cells, oil and even product is called sheathing. If you come in before the 6 week mark, the sheathing can’t rebuild in the hair root. And the sheathing is what causes the pain!
#2- Exfoliate & Hydrate
Gently exfoliating the area of removing hair. This is important to do before your waxes and about twice a week between wax appointments.
And what we exfoliate, we must hydrate. This makes sure that the hairs don’t break as they are removed.
The how —-> Before your first appointment, use a warm washcloth in the shower (gently) and a lightweight moisturizer. After your first wax, I’ll show you the tools that will help treat and prevent ingrowns. These are formulated for the Brazilian area and are a must for everyone who wants smooth skin!
#3- Try a pain reliever
If you’re especially nervous for waxing, you can choose to take a pain reliever such as Tylenol 45 minutes before your appointment time.
The how —-> Tylenol can increase the body’s pain threshold while blocking the pain receptors to the brain.
#4- Have reasonable expectations
With a waxing service, we are ripping the hair out by the root. Because of this, there are a couple pulls that are uncomfortable.
Also, waxers aim to remove all of the hair, but sometimes this is not possible due to hair growth cycles.
The how —-> Know that breathing is critical… and plan on a great mind game during your service. You can do anything for 10 minutes!!!
If you are a regular shaver, the longer that you wait to come in for first wax, the better (aim for 3-4 weeks.) But if you need to come in 2 weeks after your last shave, know that not all hairs will be able to be removed because they won’t be quite long enough. We’ll be able to get those at your 2nd wax.
#5- Choosing the right Esthetician
Pick a Brazilian Wax expert. This is someone who does a large quantity of them and has learned many techniques and different tricks to help each individual client. They also will pick a high quality wax that will help you to achieve the best results possible.
The how —-> Ask your friends or search on Google and read reviews. You can also ask in mom FaceBook groups who they recommend for waxing.
If you learned something, stay tuned for Part II where we explore the don’t’s of managing your pain.
Experience the Difference!
Zoey Jolley, LE
Reasons Why You Shouldn’t Wax
I LOVE waxing! It is the best and I recommend it to everyone. But Not everyone is right for waxing.
Here are the reasons why you should’t wax.
Here we are! I’m writing a blog post that I thought I would never write.
I LOVE waxing! It is the best and I recommend it to everyone. But Not everyone is right for waxing.
Here are the reasons why you should’t wax.
#1 - Certain Medications
Medications such as antibiotics and others can affect the skin and make you more sensitive. Finish the course and ask your doctor or pharmacist when is the right time to go back to waxing.
Also, being on accutance thins the skin. I require no waxing until you’ve been off the meds for a minimum of 6 months.
#2 - Shaving & Tweezing in between Appointments
You’ll never achieve a smooth period between waxes if you are shaving, tweezing or doing other hair removal at home.
Ditch the razor from the shower and hide the tweezers.
Experience the magic of waxing every 4-5 weeks.
#3 - Never exfoliating or moisturizing
After hair removal, the area needs a proper combination or exfoliating and moisturizing.
If you are not intended to do the aftercare, sadly I recommend avoiding waxing.
The hair the comes through is a very thin point of the hair and will need extra attention. Don’t worry though! The steps are easy and quick!
#4 - Not following aftercare instructions
It’s always best to avoid heat, sweating and sex for a minimum of 24 hours post waxing.
If you don’t follow these instructions, you likely will have problems. Cancel the problems and make way for smooth skin instead!
If you’ve never experienced a Brazilian Wax with Zoey, I promise that you are missing out!
Come Experience the Difference!
Zoey Jolley, LE
When The Doubt Monster Comes Out Before Waxing
You did the hard step and booked an appointment … but now all of the fears and doubts you had from years ago start knocking on your door. I'm here to reassure you! Over 95% of clients wished that they had booked their appointments sooner.
Picture it. You’ve never waxed before, but you’ve finally decided (after years of thinking about it) to schedule a Brazilian.
You did the hard step … but now all of the fears and doubts you had from years ago start knocking on your door.
I’m here to tell you that it’s totally normal to feel nervous. You don’t truly know how it will feel for you or what to expect.
But I’m also here to tell you that out of the thousands (yes, thousands) of waxes that I’ve performed, only TWO people said that it was worse than they had anticipated. TWO!
And at least 95% of the people tell me that they wished that they had made their appointment sooner!
And so, with that knowledge in mind, here’s what you can do.
#1 - Book that appointment.
Don’t delay. Get it on the books.
#2 - Keep that appointment.
The hardest part of scheduling is done. I promise you. Don’t back out now.
Also, toss the razor OUT of the shower. You don’t want to forget and grab that razor out of habit.
#3 - Come to that appointment.
You want the results right? Smooth, hairless skin? I’ve got you covered.
We’ll go over all the things you need to know and you’ll be one of the thousands of clients that call Essential Esthetics by Zoey their waxing home.
The fear and doubts will be gone and you’ll be so happy that you did what you wanted to.
Your only regret?
Not doing it sooner!
See you soon for an exceptional waxing experience!
Don’t forget to
Breathe. Let Go. Relax.
Zoey Jolley, LE
Waxing Throughout Every Season
Many times, I have clients ask me questions such as, “Should I wax in the winter?” “What do I do in the summertime if I’m going swimming?” I’d love to help address issues that you may have for each season.
Many times, I have clients ask me questions such as, “Should I wax in the winter?” “What do I do in the summertime if I’m going swimming?” I’d love to help address issues that you may have for each season.
SUMMER
Most of my clients will work their waxes around vacations. But what if you like to go swimming more often? My recommendation is to get a pair of swim shorts! If that seems like too much work you can shave the bikini line, but leave the rest. We may not be able to wax the bikini line area, but we’ll be able to stay on a regular schedule with the rest, and that’s the most important thing!
FALL
This is actually my favorite time to start getting so regular with waxing! Want to be smooth in the summer?! Then let’s start (and stay consistent) in fall! Be sure to keep up with your aftercare, especially the oil as we head into the winter months.
WINTER
If you feel like your hair is growing a little slower in the wintertime, let’s push your wax back to 5 or 6 weeks, but don’t stop completely, because it will be like starting over again. Wintertime vacations are also so fun, and we can be sure to wax right before your trip.
SPRING
Last, but not least, spring! Hair can pick up in the growth, but if you’ve stayed on track with waxing during all of the seasons, you won’t notice a big change. You’ll just be happy that you are getting the wanted results … NO HAIR!
If you’ve always wanted to try waxing, there is no wrong time to start! Message me and we’ll get you on the books!
Don’t forget to
Breathe. Let Go. Relax.
Zoey Jolley, LE
The Magic of Waxing Every 4 Weeks
Did you know that there’s a perfect amount of time to go between waxes? By sticking to a consistent schedule, you can achieve maximum results from your waxes. Let’s get you to the smoothest point possible now!
You’ve made it to your first Brazilian Waxing appointment. Everything went smoothly and you are checking out. Do you really need to rebook your next appointment 4 weeks out?
The answer is YES!!!
Here’s why:
#1 - Understanding the cycles of hair growth
Each hair on the body grows, rests, and then falls out. After it falls out, another hair is ready to come in it’s place.
But do you lose all of your eyelashes at the same time?
EVERY hair is on a different cycle.
We syke the hairs out to get on the same cycle… thus ensuring that we get you to the smoothest point possible!
It takes CONSISTENT waxing to get to this point (especially early on), but it is worth it!
#2 - Less pain
You know you want a pain free service!
It may not be pain free, but it’ll be 50% less painful than the first appointment.
#3 - Smooth skin
Consistent waxing provides longer lasting results than shaving. Because we are removing hair by the root, you will enjoy longer periods of smoothness and less stubble.
#4 - Less irritation
Shaving can be very irritating to the skin, and most shavers are shaving 2-3 times a week.
Waxing is a once a month and done, so gentlier on the skin overall.
#5 - Skin exfoliation
Waxing gently exfoliates removes dead skin cells while removing the hair. This can improve skin texture and appearance.
#6 - Avoid ingrowns
Shaving causes more ingrown hairs, which are uncomfortable. Regular waxing appointments encourages the hair to return in the correct direction, which means… less ingrowns!
Your waxer really wants you to experience the magic of regular, consistent waxing every 4 weeks.
Getting longer periods of smoothness, less pain, less irritation, exfoliating the skin and avoiding ingrowns.
It’s THE BEST EVER!
You’re invited to experience the difference with a Brazilian Wax Expert! Can’t wait to see you soon!
Don’t forget to
Breathe. Let Go. Relax.
Zoey Jolley, LE
The Season for Ingrowns
Summer is the season for ingrowns. Recognize the problem and then don’t wait to contact your waxer. The solution is the right combination of exfoliation and hydration!
Pop Quiz ladies!
What season is the most for experiencing ingrowns?
If you guessed summer, you selected the right months!
Why? Because it’s warm, we are more sweaty, there’s more friction, etc.
Are you picturing it now? Perfect. Because we are going to talk about what we should do about it!
First, recognize that prevention is key. Don’t wait to buy the aftercare until you already have ingrowns. Why wait until there’s a problem?
Second, if you do start to experience issue, reach out to your waxer! Let them know and let’s get you extra goodies or adjust your routine if needed. Don’t wait until your next appointment!
THE SOLUTIONS FOR INGROWNS —-> EXFOLIATE & HYDRATE
TIP #1 - Step up your Exfoliation Game
This means your CONSISTENCY (twice a week.)
Exfoliate in the direction of hair growth, not in circular or backwards motions.
If you need a little more, we will switch you to one scrubbie exfoliation and one mask exfoliation.
Do not exfoliate everyday, as it could make the situation worse.
TIP #2 - Step up your Hydration Game
Say it with me! DAILY! I will hydrate the area daily.
The right hydration will keep the pores clear and allow the hairs to break through the skin without getting trapped!
This area needs a product that is specific for the Brazilian/Bikini area. Not just anything will do.
What you exfoliate, you must hydrate. It takes these two in tandum to get the smooth, hairless skin back.
Let’s work together. Come experience the difference in 2024 with a Brazilian Wax Expert! See you soon!
Don’t forget to
Breathe. Let Go. Relax.
Zoey Jolley, LE
What To Expect For Your First 4 Waxes
Each wax appointment is a little bit of it’s own thing. So, if you’re up for it, I’d love to explain what you can expect between each wax!
Each wax appointment is a little bit of it’s own thing. So, if you’re up for it, I’d love to explain what you can expect between each wax!
What to expect between the first and second wax
Because most of the hairs the first time you wax are in the growing cycle, this will be a pretty good wax. When you are coming in for your second wax, it probably doesn’t even feel like you need to wax.
Whatever you do, don’t cancel this appointment!
The second wax is half the pain or less (partly because you don’t have all the hair back), BUT this wax is key to getting ALL of those hairs on the same growing cycle.
Do you want to keep the smoothness for longer between each wax? Be SUPER (DUPER) consistent your first four waxes!!!
What to expect between the second and third wax
You’ll probably feel like this wax ‘wasn’t as good’, but what is really happening is that the hairs that weren’t out at your second wax appointment are saying hi! Sometimes even a couple days after your appointment.
What you need to know is that this is ALL NORMAL!
Stay the course with your aftercare and your next wax appointment in four weeks.
What to expect between the third and fourth wax
So more hair will be cycled through, but you’ll notice that your third wax was still much easier than the first and similar to the second. Your hairs are getting the hang of it, so they don’t fight as hard to be removed. They will continue their random growing cycle, but you’ll soon reap the rewards by your consistency.
Everything gets easier and easier and you’ll finally know what everyone has been raving about for years!
Congratulations for being brave and smooth! Cheers to your next wax!
Don’t forget to
Breathe. Let Go. Relax.
What Your Esthetician Wants You To Know - Waxing Part II
In addition to receiving facial and massage services, I also receive waxing from other Estheticians. I’ve waxed everything (upper lip being the worst for me). I know what it’s like from the waxer’s perspective and also the client. So many clients come in for body waxing and are SO NERVOUS. Of course, you need to know that that’s 100% normal. But besides that, here are a couple more things that your Esthetician would want you to know.
#1 - We are doing a job of removing hair. We are looking for the best waxing patterns to do our job efficiently while providing the most comfort to you, the client. That’s all we are looking at. For me, it’s about combining speed with comfort.
#2 - Holding skin tight and breathing are essential to making sure you limit the pain associated with waxing. Especially when it comes to intimate waxing, trust me on this. Watching where the wax is going or trying to lift up does not help anything. It creates more anxiety for you and the waxer.
#3 - There are no questions that you can ask your Esthetician that haven’t been asked before. We are here to answer anything you have, but we’ll be sure to share with you what to do and not to do after waxing. These recommendations are helpful in creating the best waxing experience.
#4 - The aftercare instructions are important. Don’t ignore them … as this is what causes problems like bumps and ingrowns. Try to purchase the aftercare that day or as soon as possible.
#5 - Doing surgery on yourself on an ingrown will result in more problems, including dark marks (hyperpigmentation.) Instead, use the home care products and ask your Esthetician to help you remove ingrowns if possible.
In the end, every waxer has a unique pattern that they’ve learned and made into their own. They may use different waxing patterns, different wax or even sugar, or have different positions for your legs or arms. A great Esthetician has figured out what works best for him/her as well as their clients. Trust the process and their expertise that has created raving fans who come back month after month.
Don’t forget to
Breathe. Let Go. Relax.
Zoey Jolley, LE
Having Realistic Expectations
There are so many things that we’d like to change about ourselves. Technology is booming and we are seeing and hearing what we feel like are instant results. But in case you didn’t know, I’m going to burst your bubble. Some things take time, and it’s important to have realistic expectations.
Intimate Waxing
When coming in for a waxing service, you really are wanting to be hair free! We try and catch the hair in the growing cycle to get you smooth the longest that we can. The first wax is always a good one. When you come in for future appointments, you’ll have about half of the hair back. Since we can only wax the hair that is outside of the skin, the other hairs will pop back through slowly over time. But if you have a hair come out a couple days later, this is to be expected. The great thing is that they don’t all come through at once … and they are finer and thinner.
Facials and Skin
We all have something that we’d like to change about our skin. Since our bodies are constantly aging, a lot of what we do is slowing down the aging process. Plus taking care of acne and sun damage, etc. If we are working on acne, you will need a minimum of 4 months to clear … and that’s if we get everything right and figure out your triggers. For sun damage, I like to hit those hard starting in September, but encourage limiting sun exposure and wearing SPF all year round. This takes a lot of time too.
Clients want a magic wand to be waved … and poof! Your problems are fixed. Many of them want the things fixed in one facial. That’s just not possible to do that. Also, many clients will listen to recommendations, but then don’t purchase any of the home care items. That isn’t going to get to you where you want to be. Home care products that contain active ingredients are great, but sometimes they also take time to work in the skin.
Lash Lifting
We’d love to perm up the eyelashes and have them look just like extensions. But they are very different. Extensions do just that. They can extend the length and also the appearance to make them look thicker and fuller. Lash lifting is working with your natural lash. If you just aren’t there with length, you’ll want to purchase the lash serum offered and be patient in waiting for them to be longer. The lash lifting won’t volumize that, so almost every client will still wear mascara when they receive a lash lift. One final thought here… If you have blonde or light eyelashes, you really should consider doing a lash lift and tint together. I think you’d like that much better.
So, if you are thinking it’s too good to be true, it might just be! Instead of trusting that Instagram Influencer or the latest Tik Tok video, ask your Esthetician. They know your skin, hair, and lashes and can customize the treatments and take home products just for you!
Don’t forget to
Breathe. Let Go. Relax.
Zoey Jolley, LE
Quick Waxing Checklist
You’ve thought about intimate waxing for months, maybe years. You make the leap of faith and schedule an appointment, only to then think that you know nothing about waxing, but want to ‘get it right.’ Here is a quick list for you to reference to make sure that you are ready for the big day, including before, during and after a wax.
Before Waxing
Grow out hair 2-3 weeks (3 is ideal) if shaving
Exfoliate in the shower the day of your appointment
Avoid or limit caffeine and alcohol
During Waxing
Try to stay relaxed
Make sure to breathe
Hold the skin tight where your Esthetician recommends
After Waxing
Apply the hydrating serum daily
Exfoliate about every other day
For 24 hours avoid anything hot (tanning, saunas, etc.), sweating, and sex
If you still have questions, don’t be embarrassed to ask your Esthetician! We’ll explain and go over how the hair cycle works, the after care, and answer any of your concerns before or at your appointment.
99% of my clients have said it wasn’t as bad as they thought it would be … and that they’d wish that they would have come in to try it sooner. So what are you waiting for?
Don’t forget to
Breathe. Let Go. Relax.
Zoey Jolley, LE
The Growing Out Dilemma for Your First Intimate Wax
For those that are contemplating receiving waxing for the first time, one of the greatest dilemmas of getting ready for a Brazilian wax is growing out the length. The hairs must be the length of a grain of rice (about a 1/4 an inch long) to wax properly and with little pain. Since many waxers actually start out as shavers, the thought of growing out for that long is daunting.
So how long is the growing out process? I used to recommend about 2 weeks growth from shaving, but I'm finding it is a much more comfortable process PLUS a much better result IF the grow out length is 3 weeks! 3 weeks, ey? Yes! 3 weeks.
Here's why! The hair has length below and above the skin. If the hair is longer underneath, a tug of war takes place. This causes the pulling out to be a little tougher (on both you the client and the Esthetician.) It could also cause the hair to snap or break, which could result in ingrown hairs. (Trust me on this one --- you want to avoid the ingrown hairs!) Also, when shorter hairs are present, this means more tweezing ... which is definitely more uncomfortable than waxing. (Case in point ---> pulling one nose hair versus waxing the whole thing.) I also feel like tweezing could add to the ingrown hair situation, so depending on the response from the hair (I can feel if it will slide out or is tugging back), we may agree to forgo tweezing altogether.
So what do you do if you are used to shaving daily and then have to wait 3 weeks? The key is to remind yourself of all of the benefits that waxing provides over shaving. I have so many clients that will never go back! So hide your razor and think of these perks:
Waxing is so much better on the skin, resulting in longer period of smoothness
Waxing helps hair to grow back finer and thinner
Waxing is proven to have less ingrowns than shaving
Waxing will save shavers time each day
While waxing may not be for everyone, I encourage each client to try it at least twice! The majority of clients love it so much more! And from my own experience, I say that waxing is better. So glad that I went through the grow out stage to get to where I am now! Are you ready to try it?
Don't forget to
Breathe. Let Go. Relax.
Zoey Jolley, LE
How Do I Grow My Brows Back In?
So you may have tweezed one hair too many for a decade, or your previous waxer may have gotten a little carried away. With full brows being in for a couple years now, I’ve seen many clients that want to add more back in to create a natural, full brow. Brow rehab is a thing, and I’m here to help you on your journey!
What can you expect when you are needing to grow your brows back in? Each hair on your body goes through a growing, resting and falling out phase. When it falls out, another hair is set to take its place. For brows, it could take 6 to 12 months for one brow hair to return. And because you don’t want to keep a hair that isn’t next to and in line with the other hairs that are apart of the current brow, it could take up to a year (or maybe a little more) to transform your brows.
This awkward stage will be minimized. We will work together and communicate what you like and don’t like about your brows. Then I will show you the brows that are in question and we’ll make a decision of how much awkward one can take. During this process, I encourage you to throw your tweezers away. Hide them. Out of sight, out of mind. Do not tweeze any brows so that I can see what is coming in, where it is coming in, and find your natural shape. This makes my job much easier AND (bonus!) helps you to get to your natural full shape sooner!
If brows are being stubborn, then I encourage you to use a growth serum to help speed up that process. Because it can take time for each hair to grow in, it is important to cultivate patience. Also, you’ll still want to keep up regular brow appointments (usually between 3 and 4 weeks). When we keep paying attention to something, it’s remarkable how that encourages them to grow in sooner.
Waxing versus tweezing. Another thing to note here is that when you wax, you are doing more damage to the follicle of the hair (which is great if you don’t want hair clear down on your eyelid.) Tweezing doesn’t have the same effect on the hair follicle. So if we are wanting a hair in the brow shape, but it’s too awkward to keep for now, I will continue to tweeze it versus waxing. Which is also another reason why you need to get rid of those tweezers!!!
If you’ve tried for months (or years) without success to grow your brows back in, it may be time to consider permanent makeup. Since we know every brow has it’s place, adding a little to the head of the brow, or the underneath side can make a world of difference. When choosing a permanent makeup artist, be sure to check out their portfolio, ask about their training and certifications, and make sure that you communicate and feel comfortable about the brow shape BEFORE they begin the service.
If you are ready to change your shape and even just fine tune what nature gave you, let’s get going today!
Don’t forget to
Breathe. Let Go. Relax.
Zoey Jolley, LE
Can I Receive a Brazilian Wax on My Period?
Along with asking if a Brazilian Wax hurts, the next most common question I get asked about intimate waxing is “Can I receive a Brazilian Wax on my period?” Great question! And here is the answer. Ask your waxer! 99% of Estheticians are used to waxing at all times of the month and this is no exception.
Along with asking if a Brazilian Wax hurts, the next most common question I get asked about intimate waxing is “Can I receive a Brazilian Wax on my period?” Great question! And here is the answer. Ask your waxer! 99% of Estheticians are used to waxing at all times of the month and this is no exception.
Being on your cycle doesn’t mean that anything changes with the hair removal process. Your waxer or sugarist will ask you to wear a tampon, menstrual cup (like the Diva Cup) or a disc when you come in. You may want to take a Tylenol too before your appointment. I recommend too that you really avoid the caffeine and alcohol before the appointment, even if you haven’t in the past! But other than that, everything will be exactly the same process as in previous waxes.
Most clients feel like it’s pretty much the same pain as previous waxes and ends quickly. If you are very predictable and are tracking your cycles, let’s definitely schedule around it if you’d like. But if your aunt flow is random or perhaps you have an IUD and never know when you will have spotting, rest assured that this is part of our job. We will still make you feel comfortable, providing the best wax possible. It actually more often than you think! It’s completely normal. Did that make you feel better? Great!!!
Lastly, since I share my experiences often, I’ll share mine here for you. I get waxed every 5 weeks. This means that every couple cycles, I do hit my wax appointment on my period. It feels the same to me and isn’t any different than any other appointment.
Don’t forget to
Breathe. Let Go. Relax.
Zoey Jolley, LE
Confessions of an Esthetician - Ingrown Hairs
Grab your popcorn and take a seat! Story time is here again!
I’ve been a long term waxer (meaning, I’ve received intimate waxing for years), and one of the things that can happen over time is thinner and sparser hair. The thinning hair still has the obstacle of breaking through the dead skin cells. And as we age, we also have to work harder to keep the dead skin cells cycling at an acceptable rate.
Anywho, this is my way of telling you, that I never got ingrown hairs until I had been waxing a couple years. Fast forward to last year. Mid pandemic … and honestly, I was kind of sucking at the home care routine stuff. Especially my exfoliation and moisturization processes. Out of nowhere, I had 3 ingrown hairs. Say what?!
Well, I have a couple of items that I recommend to clients, so I think to myself… “Today’s the day! I’m going to be the best client ever!” And then proceed to exfoliate in the bath and use the oil right after getting out. I mean, it all feels nice, but I don’t want it to just ‘feel’ nice. I want it to be doing something. So because this is what I do … and I’m a little weird like that, I check in the bathroom 20 minutes later to see what those 3 ingrown hairs are doing. And guess what?! All 3 ingrown hairs had popped through the surface of the skin. Botta bing, botta boom. Say yes!
I always say the best treatment for ingrowns is prevention! But, if you see an ingrown pop up (correction - staying underneath the skin), address it baby! Three of my main suggestions are:
DO NOT perform surgery on yourself.
SAY YES to the aftercare!
And don’t wait until your next appointment. Let’s get you stepping up the aftercare and then we can also use high frequency at your next waxing appointment as well!
If you, too, are struggling with the dreaded ingrowns, I can’t wait to show you options and help you through the process!
Don’t forget to
Breathe. Let Go. Relax.
Zoey Jolley, LE
How Did I Start Brazilian Waxing?
Many clients come in for their first Brazilian Wax (or their hundredth Brazilian), and while we are waxing, chatting about the process of hair growth, the after care recommendations, and just about life, they ask me this question. So, how did you get into intimate waxing?
I laugh of course, only because I would ask the same question, and my choice of specialty might seem odd. But here's why it makes sense and how I got started into Brazilian waxing.
First, I like doing tasks that are detailed oriented, and I like to the be the best. I have always been one that is up for a challenge. I seek to improve myself on a regular basis and love continuing education. Just because I've done something a certain way for years, doesn't mean that I won't change it up, try a new technique, etc.
Second, I am hard wired to be a results seeker. Sure, I love the list making and crossing off, but at the end of the day, I want to see that I actually 'did' something. With Brazilian waxing, I can immediately see the results of the labor that we accomplished. There is nothing more satisfying than to see the wax strip with all of the hair, and look back at the skin to see no hairs left behind. Can I get a high five?! Haha!
So when I first started in the world of Esthetics, I did it all! I loved the challenge and variety of offering all services. But soon after, I learned that there was a knack for Brazilian waxing and not every Esthetician could (or wanted to) do a Brazilian Wax. I pride myself in offering this service in a short period of time, efficiently, and with little pain associated. I also keep a very clean and sanitary wax station. I wanted the challenge and dove right in to trying 17 different waxes (oh my! That's a story for another day) and taking all sorts of courses (which I still do because you can always learn something.) It's been my passion and I love helping women with this intimate service and helping them feel comfortable, especially for first time waxers.
I'd love to help you achieve smooth skin with any body waxing! Can't wait to meet you at the treatment room!
Don't forget to
Breathe. Let Go. Relax.
Zoey Jolley, LE
The Quick Prep List for a Brazilian Wax
Are you new to Brazilian Waxing, but don't have the time (or desire) to read a couple articles on how to best prepare for your wax? Then this article is for you! Short and to the point! If you have further questions, reach out to your Esthetician for the right guidance!
The Do's List
Exfoliate the day of your appointment
Wear comfortable, loose clothing
Wear clean underwear
Try to be relaxed and calm
The Don'ts List
Stay away from the horror stories on the internet
Avoid or limit caffeine intake that day
Don't exercise immediately before your appointment
Final notes.
Ask the questions. Your Esthetician has been asked everything under the sun. Once the pants come off, there are no questions waxer haven't been asked before.
Listen to the post waxing instructions. They are given for a reason.
Plan to purchase the aftercare. This helps your skin and hair down there be happier.
Don't forget to
Breathe. Let Go. Relax.
Zoey Jolley, LE
Confessions of an Esthetician - Performing My Own Brazilian
Did you read the title? I could just tell you that you shouldn't do it on your own and walk away nicely. But I know you want to get comfy on the couch and grab some popcorn, don't you? Okay ... here goes!
I have been a long term waxer, and while I know how to perform Brazilian waxes (heck - I've performed as many as nine of them in one day,) I still pay my Esthetician for this service. It is 1000% worth it! But, during quarantine, I had to resort to desperate measures.
So, I decide after waxing my legs and underarms that I just need to do it (advice I often give clients that want to try Brazilian waxing for the first time.) I have developed a pattern for waxing that is quick and efficient, but balanced by comfort. Knowing that I would have to be pulling my own strips (and also knowing what the rips feel like), I opted to follow that same pattern, but do slightly smaller strips.
I start on my first section and place the wax ... almost wondering if I am that crazy that I decided to do it on myself. I wait for it to set up, go to pull, and then chicken out. I know I can't leave it on too long, so I keep breathing like I'm going to have a baby and then take the plunge. The strip was removed and I checked to make sure that not only the wax came off but the hair did too. Success! Instead of placing several strips of wax at a time, I keep it slow and steady. I call it a success because I didn't swear and I was able to remove all of the wax that I placed. I deserve a gold star! It took me way longer than waxing a client. But sometimes you've got to do what you've got to do.
Did I die? Haha. Nope.
Was I drenched with sweat at the end of it? Yep!
Was I able to wax my own bootie? Nope! I'm not that flexible.
Did I immediately message my Esthetician to set up my next wax appointment? You bet your bottom dollar I did!!! And I'm still seeing her every month!
Leave the professional services to the professional! I promise you it's worth it.
Don't forget to
Breathe. Let Go. Relax.
Zoey Jolley, LE
The #1 Reason Why Women Haven't Tried a Brazilian Wax
There are many talking about the benefits of waxing, why they like it, and the actual experience. Think bloggers, social media influencers, spas and estheticians alike ... we are constantly sharing. So why haven't women tried a Brazilian Wax? The #1 reason is the Google Factor.
If you know me, you know that I LOVE offering Brazilian waxing. This service takes years to perfect a technique that flows for the waxer and is also most comfortable to the client. So, while I'm not a stranger from hearing from countless women (pretty much an everyday conversation) that they haven't tried this service, I am still always shocked.
There are many talking about the benefits of waxing, why they like it, and the actual experience. Think bloggers, social media influencers, spas and estheticians alike ... we are constantly sharing. So why haven't women tried a Brazilian Wax? The #1 reason is the Google Factor.
What is the Google Factor? This is when a well meaning client (that could be you) turns to the trusty google and types in Brazilian wax into the search bar. What pops up? Remember that all of those sharing and talking about it online? The ones that come up are the articles about waxing horror stories. The worst of the worst. You were already anxious about the waxing part, but now you have your worst fears confirmed from some influencer you've never met on YouTube. 'She's right! It will be horrible. I can't do it.'
I have waxed hundreds of women over the years. The truth is you can do this! Out of the hundreds that I have waxed, I have had one (just ONE) woman tell me she thought that it was worse than she imagined. So the other 99.9% of women thought it was BETTER! AND, the #1 comment that I receive is that they wished that they would have come in sooner.
Instead of reading and listening to the horror stories, pull up local waxers and read the reviews from clients that have received this service. Reach out to the estheticians in your area to ask your questions. Talk to girlfriends to see if they've ever done it and who they saw. Ask your beauty industry professionals as well.... guaranteed they know someone who they can refer you to!
The bad experiences don't have to be yours! If you are truly interested in trying a waxing treatment, my best advice is to just do it. While it may not be a pain free service, I'm here to make sure that you leave smiling and ready to try wax #2.
Don't forget to
Breathe. Let Go. Relax.
Zoey Jolley, LE
Waxing versus Sugaring
My clients know me well! Though I offer a pretty good variety of esthetic services, I only offer services that I myself am willing to receive as a client. I go on a regular basis to experience all different esthetic services.
Sugaring was developed in Ancient Egypt and consists of sugar, lemon and water to make a sugar paste. This paste can be made at home, but most estheticians prefer to purchase from a supplier (since it can also take a lot of time to batch the product.) Estheticians will use a ball of the paste and mold it in their hands to warm it up. Kind of like rolling a stress ball over and over, not in the palm, but up towards the finger tips. They then use the paste with pressure and apply it against direction of the hair growth in a strip pattern. Once that is applied, they then will flick the paste with the wrist in little short movements going with the direction of the hair growth. This process doesn't take any longer than waxing with an experienced sugarist.
There are pockets of estheticians in the United States who prefer this method of hair removal over waxing. It is also more popular over in Europe (where many beauty trends begin.) I believe that the beauty professionals lean towards this technique because of advanced training that may be near them or their own personal experience with the service. Many believe that there are less reactions to the product itself, less ingrowns, and less irritation with sugaring.
So if waxing and sugaring both remove the hair, what is the difference? Wax is applied with an applicator or stick with the hair growth. Sugaring is applied without an applicator; just the hands in gloves against the hair growth. For most, it comes down to personal preference on how it feels to the client.
I have experienced a sugaring service for my Brazilian area and it was not my favorite. The technique of applying with the hair growth and removing against the hair hurt more to me. This may be due to my service provider or due to my individual preferences where waxing isn't as painful. My opinion is just one of many, and I don't doubt that there are so many that prefer sugaring. Since I aim to give my clients that best experiences possible, I continue to develop my waxing skills and passion in the treatment room.
Don't forget to
Breathe. Let Go. Relax.
Zoey Jolley, LE